So, yesterday was 100% tantrum free. I wonder if not having a bedroom door is the reason for such a good night. I think he will get tired of the lack of privacy though, and I have a feeling he will tire of it sooner than later! But that's OK, we got a nice easy night last night so Brian was able to go out and hang with the guys.
This week is a busy one for me. I agreed to chaperone a field a trip with Liam's class on Thursday, mostly because I really like his teachers, and don't get much one on one time with the Lammy. We are also going to a vineyard on Thursday evening for a pre valentine's wine tasting. Friday I agreed to go to a conference all day with Sky's teachers about inclusion teaching. And Friday night we are having dinner with a couple of friends! So that means, Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday I will be putting in lots of hours at my actual job, if the universe will permit me. I know, I manage to be an awesome mom, a great friend, a busy citizen and own a business, I should definitely get some sort of award! (now is when I expect my 6 readers to start organizing the Julie So Coolie Gala for Awesome People.) I have been learning the art of saying no recently. You might think as a 31 year old I should have learned this skill quite a long time ago, but I am terrible at disappointing people, obviously, just look at my week! That is only the stuff I agreed to do. But I find that other people have no trouble saying no when it doesn't benefit them, and I really think it's time for me to hone in on the skill. I used to think that other people could see how busy I was, and if they asked me for help doing things it must be because they were truly stuck and couldn't find someone who didn't have a new adoption, a growing business, 2 kids, 3 pets, fencing lessons, art class, therapy, and a husband, to help them. So I would feel guilty letting people down. Now I see that I get roped into everything because I agree to do too many things. Now I go to work a few days a week, and do the rest from home, I have explained to Skyler's teachers the stress the constant calls home had on me, and now I only get called if it's very important, I make time to hang out with friends on my schedule, and just this week I have said no to several things I didn't feel like doing! Go me! I used to think it was selfish not to help everyone or make plans with everyone. Now I see that it is self centered to think I could handle everything that I was trying to do. Everyone has a breaking point, and it's very important for parents to not even approach theirs. I feel like all of the misunderstandings and angry words come from being over worked and over stressed. So, my advice for today is if you are a busy parent, business person, astronaut, or whatever, say no to someone at least 1 time this week, and take time out to sit in silence for an hour or 2. The benefits are long reaching, I promise! This is one thing you should say yes to!!!
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